Twin share
€1,095per person
Early-bird price until 15 November 2026, then €1,195.
Share a twin room with another guest, or bring a friend. We will thoughtfully match same-gender sharers.
All meals, wine, Pilates and programme included.
A relationship retreat for people who want to love well
Love, Examined.
A beautiful, practical long weekend to build the foundations of a long and lasting relationship, wherever you are in your love life now.
Come alone, while dating, or after meeting someone. A small group of 12.
- When
- 19 to 22 February 2027
- Where
- Carcassonne, South of France
- Venue
- L’Orée de la Cité
- Price
- From €1,095
- per person, early-bird until 15 November 2026
Who it is for
Already seeing someone? Come anyway.
Love, Examined is not only for people who are single. It is for anyone who wants to build the foundations of a long, lasting and real relationship.
You may be dating, newly together, or simply want to make wiser choices before the next relationship begins. The work is designed to help you bring more self-respect, clearer communication, stronger boundaries and genuine compatibility into love.
You attend as an individual (this is not a couples retreat), but it can be a powerful beginning for the relationship you want to create or grow.
The idea
A more grounded way to love.
This is a warm, beautifully held weekend for people who want to feel more at ease, more informed and more hopeful about love, whether they are single, dating or newly together.
There is no speed dating. No pairing people up. No promise that you will meet someone in Carcassonne. Just the rare chance to step away from the noise, learn something useful and return to life with a clearer sense of how you want to love.
The strongest relationships begin with a better foundation.
Why I created this
Self-love is not about being nicer. It is about valuing yourself.
I spent years in relationships that were not right for me, often not valuing myself enough. The Heal Your Life® work became a pivotal point in my own journey, not because it taught me to be nicer, or to try harder to be chosen, but because it helped me understand the value of respecting and loving myself first.
That changed what I was willing to accept, pursue and recognise in love. It also changed the way I looked at dating. When we feel more secure in ourselves, we can approach new connections with curiosity rather than searching for proof that we are enough: more able to notice compatibility, communicate what matters and stay open without losing ourselves.
More self-respect. More clarity. A more grounded way of dating.
Sheelagh O’NeillCoach · Heal Your Life® Teacher
What you will take home
Reflective, yes. Practical too.
We will turn insight into choices you can carry into your next date, relationship and chapter.
01
A clearer compass
Know what you value, need and are no longer willing to compromise on in a relationship.
02
More self-respect
Stay connected to yourself, especially when you like someone, rather than losing sight of what feels right.
03
Foundations that last
Build a more secure, honest and intentional way to relate, whether you are single, dating or just beginning something new.
Your long weekend
Four days to come back to yourself.
Coaching, conversation and reflection are balanced with rest, Pilates, good food, a little exploration and plenty of space to be human.
Friday
Arrive with ease
Settle in, meet the group over a welcome drink and dinner, and leave ordinary life behind for a few days.
Saturday
Reconsider
Pilates, coaching, conversation and reflection. Then an unhurried evening of beautiful food, some French wine and a candlelit shared table.
Sunday
Choose what is next
Explore values, compatibility, boundaries and practical dating. There is also time to wander in the magnificent medieval Cité.
Monday
Take it with you
Breakfast, check-out and onward travel, taking a clear next step and your journal into real life.
Saturday evening
A reminder that beautiful things do not need to wait.
We will gather around a long table for candles, conversation, a beautiful dinner created by Daniel and some French wine. Dress up if you would like to.
It is not a date night. It is a small celebration of pleasure, connection and the life you are already allowed to enjoy.
Good foodGood company
Your home for the weekend
Beside La Cité.
At L’Orée de la Cité, you will be minutes from the extraordinary medieval city of Carcassonne. It is a relaxed, intimate French home where we can eat, talk and laugh together, and where you can still find a quiet corner with a coffee when you need one.
A French home with room to breathe.
L’Orée de la Cité is a relaxed, characterful house beside Carcassonne: quiet bedrooms, generous shared spaces, a courtyard for long lunches and the medieval Cité just beyond the trees.
Choose your room
Come alone. Feel at home.
You are welcome to come alone. The retreat is designed to feel easy from the moment you walk through the door.
Private room
€1,395per person
Early-bird price until 15 November 2026, then €1,495.
Your own bedroom within the retreat house. A limited number are available.
All meals, wine, Pilates and programme included.
Bathrooms are shared except where otherwise specified. Flights and personal spending are not included. See our cancellation policy.
19 to 22 February 2027
Make space for a clearer heart.
There will be 12 places. Register your interest and Sheelagh will share room options and booking details personally.
Early-bird: €100 off any room when you book by 15 November 2026.
- When
- 19 to 22 February 2027
- Where
- Carcassonne, France
Also from Love, Examined
Prefer to join online?
Love, Examined Online is a separate six-week live course for single people: Tuesdays, 27 October to 1 December 2026, 7pm Irish time, €295 for this first group.